Open letter to a grieving sibling
Hello. This letter is to you, and just you. You are grieving as part of a family group, yes – but you have your own unique grief as a...
On this day
On this day in 2014, three years ago, my brother died. He was killed by a drunk driver who also died in the crash. On this day, here in...
Something will always be wrong
Not long ago, I had one of those days. They come along periodically, and randomly, it seems. I wake up with a nagging sensation of...
What could be helpful to say?
When someone close to a friend or family member dies, we often wonder: What can I possibly say? We wrestle with our sadness and...
Grief is a long game
I am a goal-oriented person. I think this is because I have a gene for it, although it may be a combination of nature and nurture. My...
The shadow side of survivorship
You may have heard of the phenomenon known as “survivor guilt" (described at this link by What's Your Grief). It’s fairly well documented...
The ongoing work of coping with loss
Would that the work of grieving were more like shoveling snow... This past weekend brought the biggest snowfall of the winter so far,...
E-mail, and other ways people live on
Fact: I do not manage my inbox effectively. When I receive an urgent e-mail, something related to work or my children or a health issue,...
The hole we cannot fill
This past weekend I attended the annual fall meeting of the Board of Directors of the Bereaved Parents of the USA. One of the topics...
Castles of the future
Like many people, I grew up believing in a cause-and-effect relationship between how you live and what life brings – in other words, if...